A daring escape from the Democratic Republic of the Congo led Deo Mwano to a life of freedom, inspiration, appreciation, and the desire to persevere to excel.
Originally from the Democratic Republic of the Congo, Deo Mwano is an innovative, multi-cultural leader in education, organizational leadership and social justice. He teaches, inspires, and motivates students to follow a path of self-improvement and dedication to others. In doing so, Deo draws on his often traumatic personal experience as well as his educational background.
Growing up during a violent civil war, Deo faced much misfortune. At age nine, he became the patriarch of the family. It wasn’t easy. But after moving to the United States in 2000 with his mother and three younger brothers, he found his voice.
A gifted performer and presenter, Deo connects with others through dance and motivational speaking. His talents have been welcomed at Yale University, NHPR’s Word of Mouth, The Moth storytelling at GCIR annual event, TEDxAmoskeagMillyard, Ethiopian Community Development Council (ECDC), WJLA TV, and Politics and Prose, which emphasized the importance of global and social awareness.
Deo works with international and national businesses, universities and nonprofits. His core strengths include Discipline Expertise and Action Expertise. As a discipline expert, Deo helps people understand what impacts their behaviors (the Will-Drivers). He has worked with diverse demographic groups, studying “Motivation to Action”. Deo’s action expertise has enabled him to analyze data and create steps to improve results and ensure success.
Deo earned his BA in International Relations and History and MBA in Strategic Leadership. His honors include being named to 40 Under 40 as an emerging leader in New Hampshire.
Deo’s Refugee Story
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My name is Deo Mwano. My life has been full of unexpected events. I was born and raised in Zaire, which today is called the Democratic Republic of Congo. My world turned upside down when my father was assassinated in 1998. My father had been a senior advisor to General Mahele, the Congolese army’s highest ranking officer. General Mahele oversaw all of the military operations in the Zaire at the time, I was seven years old when my father was killed..
Everything my family had was taken away. And we were afraid that whoever killed my father would come back to kill us too. My mother’s courage, faith and stubbornness kept us alive. Without her, my story might have ended two decades ago.
We left Congo as refugees and were relocated to a refugee camp in Benin, Western Africa. After two and a half years in the camp, we resettled in Manchester, New Hampshire on February 17, 2000. It was, so far as we knew, was the coldest place on earth.
At first, my family’s collective goal was modest: survival. Although such a goal required living in the present, we nevertheless became future oriented. Dwelling on the past seemed wasteful and pointless. My father’s death had made me the oldest male of the family. But it was clear to my brothers and me that my mother was in charge. My job was to help make sure my brothers stayed in line, were safe. I had no real authority, no voice of my own. But not long after resettling, all that changed when I revisited the place that my family, out of necessity, had forsaken: my past. And when I started sharing my story, I found my own voice.
At age 12, I traveled all over America, working with inner city communities through a program called Joshua Generation. The experience taught me a lot about what a person could accomplish within the framework of a supportive community. I also learned the power of perseverance. Of course I had seen perseverance demonstrated before by my mother. But seeing how it played out in a broader context taught me how it could work for me. And so with prayer, along with community support, perseverance helped me work through many of my struggles. I had had a horrendous early childhood. I experienced terrifying moments when I felt as if my life could be instantly snatched away. But now America was giving me a second chance at life. I cherished that opportunity. And I pledged to myself to work hard to maximize it.
We live in a very divisive world. Even though technology has made us more connected and, as a result, made the world a smaller and more intimate place, we have resisted trying to understand the perspectives and experiences of other people. Today, our divisions are holding us back, both as individuals and organizations, from moving forward in maximizing the skills, experiences and creativity that our diversity has given us.
Coming of age in a predominantly white community taught me a lot about differences. I developed great relationships with white people who took us in as family. Their support contributed tremendously to my success and forward momentum. But I faced a lot of racism, too. I have been belittled, treated unjustly and persecuted. Navigating through those challenges strengthened my ability to create ways to bring people together and move beyond what divides us. I have used my voice to advocate for those who were marginalized. I learned a lot about inner city America and people of color who live in poverty. The summer program I was involved with for 10 years ran counter to the safe life I lived in New Hampshire. It changed my perspective. I had to accept the harsh and often dead-end existences of the people I met. I also had to learn not to minimize their struggles by comparing them to my family’s escape from almost certain death in a country being torn apart by civil war. Above all, I had to learn an inconvenient truth. Despite the blessings of my life in America as a former refugee from Congo, I, too, would be marginalized because of the color of my skin. That important truth helped me build an empathy for the oppressed, but also forced me to confront realities I had managed to ignore.
As a teenager, I underwent a deceptive transformation. Externally I looked fine because I was chasing possibility. I was involved in things that uplifted my spirit and pushed me forward. Internally, however, my past trauma was eating me up. I was bound by bitterness and anger. Depression and suicidal thoughts came frequently. Fortunately, I was able to filter my inner turmoil through my faith. I learned how to confront my demons. I came to value conscious living, a self-awareness process which helped me discover what influenced my feelings, obsessions, decisions, passions, compulsiveness.
My journey toward self-awareness continued after college when I landed a job at a university as a learning coach. During this time, I listened to countless stories from students, gaining insight into their different perspectives. I helped design a coaching model with techniques aimed to better understand the relationship between motivation and action. This enabled me to help students take control of their intentions and initiate appropriate action to fulfill them. Finally, I took what I learned and applied it to my own life and interactions with others. I became more familiar with my personal drivers. I dissected my various traumas and saw how they impacted my own perspectives and actions. The better I understood myself, the more open and honest I became about the actions I have taken to get where I am today.
Persevere to Excel, is self-explanatory. Exceeding the average takes sustained effort. But what is perseverance? Where does it come from? What fuels it? Perseverance is often mistaken for “toughing it out.” But toughing it out is an adrenaline rush, good for the short run but not the long haul. Toughing it out is running on empty, which is not sustainable. Perseverance, on the other hand, is a renewable energy source. It is fueled through constant introspection and acquisition, by forces inside you and outside you. Only by identifying those forces is perseverance possible. And only with genuine perseverance is it possible to excel.